[NoColoradoGT]

I can't believe I'm asking for this, but...

It's been awhile since I've been on a real date.

I just got out of a two and a half year relationship last August and was actually engaged, but have been LOVING being single since. I've gone out with tons of different women and have been having an amazing time. Needless to say, I'm thoroughly enjoying being single.

To preface, I've been on a ton of dates since the end of my last relationship, but it's never been anything serious. Everything has been totally for fun, no strings attached, and just a good time.

I met this girl about two months back and she is probably one of the absolute most beautiful girls I've ever met in my entire life. My jaw hit the floor when I first saw her and still hits the floor when I see her.

Anyways, she and I have been talking a lot over the last two weeks and we've set up two dates this week.

Sunday night when she gets off work, I'm going to come by, be her last customer and then take her out to coffee for a bit.

Then the following Sunday night we're going to go to Sushi.

We also have made plans to make a dinner together sometime soon but that hasn't been set yet.

This girl is incredible guys. I really don't know her incredibly well yet (we talk a ton, but haven't spent a lot of time around one another yet) but she is just the kindest, most driven, and sweetest girl I've met in a while, and I cannot stress how stunningly beautiful she is.

We've been flirting a bit back and forth through text. Stuff that hints that we might like one another, but never coming right out and saying it.

As I said earlier, I'm loving being single, but if it came to it, I'd go into a relationship with this girl. From what I know of her, she seems 100% worth it. Obviously, that's a bridge to cross later however. I want to take things slow in this situation.

Anyways, I started this thread because I wanna know, what advice do you guys have for me in a situation like this? It's been a while since I've been on a date that might be for more than just fun and a hook-up. We're talking about 3 years time here. I was a very different person three years ago (I was flipping just turning 18 then).

What do you suggest? Conversations to bring up, to not bring up, etc?

Anything thrown out there is good for me. I'm just kind of nervous because I literally feel like she's out of my league. But that prospect excites me as well. hahahhaa.

Anything is helpful, thanks guys.

[6ER THEN I 8ER!]

don't randomly yell out PIITB...no matter what the guys on here say lol

just listen to her and don't make yourself look like a self centered asshat...then again i've been with my fiance for 4 1/2 years so what do i know about first dates lol....it's been so long since i've had one

[NoColoradoGT]

Originally Posted by 6ER THEN I 8ER! don't randomly yell out PIITB...no matter what the guys on here say lol just listen to her and don't make yourself look like a self centered asshat...then again i've been with my fiance for 4 1/2 years so what do i know about first dates lol....it's been so long since i've had one

I don't think any of those things will be an issue...hahahaha

[kermit]

just joking... i wouldn't do that

when you meet her complement her on something about how she looks, specifically. like I like those shoes or your hair looks nice, or something

[mcqueen]

Got any dark secrets? Don't bring those up.. Until you're married

[Jazzer The Cat]

If you just got out of a 2.5 year relationship and was engaged..... you need to be single for a while!

You will do NOBODY, including yourself, any good without a healthy heart/mind going into the next relationship. Stay single for 8 months or a year. Get into doing stuff by yourself and loose the expectations of what a partner should be and enjoy life. This will bring you not only a nice inner peace of mind, but expose your happiness to others and guess what.... she will find you!

Jazzer

[Calogero6685]

"No" means "Yes", and "Yes" means "Anal"?

Edit:
Honestly, of you don't mind trying to make something work, go for it.

But I will not reply in the thread where this gorgeous woman dumps you for an Italian in a black Mach 1...

[Silver35th]

Just be yourself. No over the top fake garbage like complementing everything and such. Just be yourself, make her laugh, try to find out what she's interested in and talk about it. Look spiffy.

[SON1C]

Originally Posted by NoColoradoGT I can't believe I'm asking for this, but... It's been awhile since I've been on a real date. I just got out of a two and a half year relationship last August and was actually engaged, but have been LOVING being single since. I've gone out with tons of different women and have been having an amazing time. Needless to say, I'm thoroughly enjoying being single. To preface, I've been on a ton of dates since the end of my last relationship, but it's never been anything serious. Everything has been totally for fun, no strings attached, and just a good time. I met this girl about two months back and she is probably one of the absolute most beautiful girls I've ever met in my entire life. My jaw hit the floor when I first saw her and still hits the floor when I see her. Anyways, she and I have been talking a lot over the last two weeks and we've set up two dates this week. Sunday night when she gets off work, I'm going to come by, be her last customer this makes her sound like a prostitute, just saying lol and then take her out to coffee for a bit. Then the following Sunday night we're going to go to Sushi. We also have made plans to make a dinner together sometime soon but that hasn't been set yet. This girl is incredible guys. I really don't know her incredibly well yet (we talk a ton, but haven't spent a lot of time around one another yet) but she is just the kindest, most driven, and sweetest girl I've met in a while, and I cannot stress how stunningly beautiful she is. We've been flirting a bit back and forth through text. Stuff that hints that we might like one another, but never coming right out and saying it. As I said earlier, I'm loving being single, but if it came to it, I'd go into a relationship with this girl. From what I know of her, she seems 100% worth it. Obviously, that's a bridge to cross later however. I want to take things slow in this situation. Anyways, I started this thread because I wanna know, what advice do you guys have for me in a situation like this? It's been a while since I've been on a date that might be for more than just fun and a hook-up. We're talking about 3 years time here. I was a very different person three years ago (I was flipping just turning 18 then). What do you suggest? Conversations to bring up, to not bring up, etc? Anything thrown out there is good for me. I'm just kind of nervous because I literally feel like she's out of my league. But that prospect excites me as well. hahahhaa. Anything is helpful, thanks guys.

well one already i think you're already starting to over think this, just be yourself man, but be easy with the sexual advances because if you really want to pursue her for a relationship and not just a FB, then doing that too early could obviously send the wrong message but you already understand that. just take her out and do fun things with her, be spontaneous and all that, also if shes so good looking.. pics!

[SON1C]

Originally Posted by Jazzer The Cat If you just got out of a 2.5 year relationship and was engaged..... you need to be single for a while! You will do NOBODY, including yourself, any good without a healthy heart/mind going into the next relationship. Stay single for 8 months or a year. Get into doing stuff by yourself and loose the expectations of what a partner should be and enjoy life. This will bring you not only a nice inner peace of mind, but expose your happiness to others and guess what.... she will find you! Jazzer

i disagree with this, getting seriously involved with someone else is the easiest way to move on from your last, if he was with her for what 3 years, she has to still be on his mine and miss her (to an extent how much idk) finding someone new and worthy could potentially easily make the ex fade fast.

[Silver35th]

Originally Posted by SteeD43 i disagree with this, getting seriously involved with someone else is the easiest way to move on from your last, if he was with her for what 3 years, she has to still be on his mine and miss her (to an extent how much idk) finding someone new and worthy could potentially easily make the ex fade fast.

Especially if he's talking about how beautiful this chick is. Most likely an upgrade from what he lost in the previous relationship.

[NoColoradoGT]

Originally Posted by kermit just joking... i wouldn't do that when you meet her complement her on something about how she looks, specifically. like I like those shoes or your hair looks nice, or something

I'll oblige. hahahaha

Originally Posted by Jazzer The Cat If you just got out of a 2.5 year relationship and was engaged..... you need to be single for a while! You will do NOBODY, including yourself, any good without a healthy heart/mind going into the next relationship. Stay single for 8 months or a year. Get into doing stuff by yourself and loose the expectations of what a partner should be and enjoy life. This will bring you not only a nice inner peace of mind, but expose your happiness to others and guess what.... she will find you! Jazzer

It's been about 6 months now. I ended that last relationship in late-May of this year. I've had some time date around for a bit like I said, but i actually agree with you. That's why I said above, I just kind of want to take this situation slow and just let it go where it goes. I just feel like a giddy 2 year old when I get a text from this girl though. I've never had that happen to this extent. What I really think I need to do is stop putting pressure on myself because of my desire to want this thing to work, because that probably would ruin it all.

Good stuff here guys, thanks.


and Calogero.....I WILL find you.....

[Jazzer The Cat]

Originally Posted by SteeD43 i disagree with this, getting seriously involved with someone else is the easiest way to move on from your last, if he was with her for what 3 years, she has to still be on his mine and miss her (to an extent how much idk) finding someone new and worthy could potentially easily make the ex fade fast.

This is exactly the type of thing that many do and end up carrying baggage from one relationship into the next! Just bury all of those feelings and move on to the next relationship. Avoid processing what was good, what was not soo good and probably jump back into a relationship and pretend you aren't still hurt. If it is that easy to move on from a 3 year relationship and with an engagement, than the emotional commitment was not there and was dumb to consider marriage. If one is not hurt by the loss of THIS relationship, he/she is a poor choice for another one so quickly, IMO

Jazzer

[Calogero6685]

Gawddahm,bro!

GET IT! SPOIL IT! MARRY IT!

[NoColoradoGT]

See what I mean though? In the things that I like in a girl, she's an absolutely 100% perfect 10.

[SON1C]

she a sorority girl?

[SON1C]

Originally Posted by Jazzer The Cat This is exactly the type of thing that many do and end up carrying baggage from one relationship into the next! Just bury all of those feelings and move on to the next relationship. Avoid processing what was good, what was not soo good and probably jump back into a relationship and pretend you aren't still hurt. If it is that easy to move on from a 3 year relationship and with an engagement, than the emotional commitment was not there and was dumb to consider marriage. If one is not hurt by the loss of THIS relationship, he/she is a poor choice for another one so quickly, IMO Jazzer

everyone copes with things differently, i just offer whats worked for me and what hasnt

[NoColoradoGT]

Yep. Delta Zeta. I'm not a frat guy (don't have time with my major and a lot of the frats around here kind of tend to be douches) but I enjoy and can appreciate Greek Life stuff. hahaha

[Calogero6685]

Originally Posted by NoColoradoGT and Calogero.....I WILL find you.....

COMEATME,BRO!

[BML99]

Just be baller and shit.