[97Cobra]

Well you guys Im probly not going to be on as much. I have got involved with a young lady whom Im trying to get her to change her mind. She is scared to date anyone at the time because her mom is pushing her to go through a whole bunch of collage, and her mom would i guess be really mad at her if she dated. its a long story i still dont understand.

get ready for the long slopy story! IM TIRED! lol

anyways she and I have been hanging out A LOT! and I turned weak and fell in love with her and she had strong feelings for me as well. Anyway we where hanging out and she was depressed so I found it my duty to cheer her up wich I did. She then pulled out a letter and said this is for you but Im not done. she then looked upset and ripped it up????? after awhile I walked out to my car and she grabed me, huged me tightly and said "Chris I have to tell you something, I am falling for you and I have really strong feelings for you" so I then told her its OK because I loved her. then I got a kiss on the cheeck. so then we sit next to each other for about 2hrs talking holding hands etc and the she says I have to tell you something... I said ok then she said we need to stop being so close and stop talking so much and stop hanging out as much becasue she cant date right now and her feelings for me where getting stronger. I then proceded to tear up (lol shush!) and then we talked about it n I told her I would wait because she is like my other half. and then she said no dont wait etc. well after the talk she tried to cheer me up so she just hugs on me n kisses me. WTF? after that she lays on me and says she dosent want to leave and then she says she loves me. so we sit there for hours her in my arms she holding my hands. and then she leaves because she has school in the am which it was allready 3:30am...

so the next day im huging on her etc... we go out to dinner etc... as we are walking i out my ar arround her n she takes my hand n moves it off... I figured she just didnt want an arm around her. when its time for her to go home I walk her to her car as usual and I attempt to give her a hug as usual....no hug... ok she calls me about 2 hrs later and I ask her whats up and she says we need to stop doing that. I tear up she comes over. ( shusssh! lol) she then cheers me up n kisses me a lot! and asks me to be her date to a halloween dance at her collage. I say ok and I ask her if she wants t be with me and she says of course so I say so we are offically a couple now huh. she says no she cant date? WTF? she ends up laying on me talking about how she wants to be with me and she proceds to kiss me even more... (damn my breath must smell good! lol) so she leaves i walk her to her car and I ask her if its going to be like this 2marro and she says I cant. then she prommised to be with me after she figures out what she is going to do with her life....

I have no clue what to do about this????? and I do love her she is the 1st girl I have ever had that hasnt been with me to use me for my car or my money. Im sooo messed up n depressed right now.

so thats why I havent been on in a while.

[Hourofpain]

dude
right there
you got yourself an amazing female.
she is utterly and completely honest with you.

if you really like this girl
stay around her and understand that shes in college and shes under alot of pressure and theres not much she can handle.
you do that i mean you said you really cared
You do this and when you guys actually start dating you have all her respect off the bat.

stick with it man.
its worth it

[97Cobra]

I know. thats kinda what I just emailed her...lol seriously like 2min before i was reading this i emailed her saying I will be her best friend intill she wants more and i told her Im always going to be here for her!.

[97Cobra]

thanks man!

[07stanggt]

I dont know dude. Be careful she isnt just stringing you along.

[Hourofpain]

shes not
honesty like that
never

[smoke-em]

If you bang her she will be emtionally attached easy win. But sounds like she just needs some convincing women are indecisive and are unaware of what they want until you convince them. She is obviously into you so convince her she can handle school and late night sex at the same time.

[1FastFox]

Be careful man, I had a girl sometime back tell me some lines very similar. Long story short we were very involved for about a week, texting me in the middle of the night telling me she couldnt stop thinking about me, leaving stuff ( notes, candies, ect.. ) on my bed so I would find them when I went to sleep, ect. ect. ect... She kept telling me that she loved me and being with me but couldnt ( more excuses than I can remeber ). Come to find out it was because she had a BF she had been with for the 5 years... Broke my heart...

[9cobra3]

Stick with her man it will work out in the end you just gotta be their for her thats al. After she sees that you will put her needs before yours and etc. she will like you even more and you will have it made in the shade. But, if you rush her decision you will push her further away til she goes over the edge. So its good and bad cuz in the end you gotta have patients, lots. Let me know how it turns out. :wink

[HMUSN]

piitb yet?



stick with her.
You got a good fish.

[Reset]

Be VERY careful becoming "best friends"... that can kill ANY chance of a relationship later on.

[Phoenixx]

I hate to say it but Reset is true, some of my really close guy friends, well only I fall really hard like I did with Chris, its not worth ruining the friendship over. It's a really fine line to walk on, and its hard as hell.

When Chris and I started getting like that, we'd be close and huggy/kisses on the cheek, sleep together (not sex), but he kept saying he needed time to find himself, and he wasn't ready for a relationship. Now with her I don't know if she's not ready or if her moms not ready, but if its her respect that because starting something when some one isn't ready will just end. I kinda dated people in the couple months that were like that, but I just didn't click, then finally he was ready (and at this point I had to take a week to think about it because I had been casually dating a guy and I wanted to make sure it wasn't a jealousy thing)... best thing that ever happened to me.

It'll be worth it in the end, I promise you. I would try to keep things a little bit relationshipy and not just become the best friend, ya know? Also be careful. Sadly a lot of woman do play games.

[vfast]

dude move on your too young for the crap..something is amiss with her...I'm sure by now you tired of having the blue ball thing....do what she said back off and see what happens.....nothing worse in try'in to date a mixed up girl..hell thier bad enough anywayz

[HMUSN]

Originally Posted by HMUSN piitb yet?

[1FastFox]

ok, you guys are going to think Im full of shit and not going to believe this but Im going to tell you anyways... The girl I talked about above, havent talked to her in awhile ( long while ) she calls me up at 10:45 this morning says she ran into my moma nd got my number. wanted to meet for lunch, like i said she broke my heart, so ofcoarse I jumped at the oportunity and went to lunch. she broke up with her BF a while back and wants to get together tonight!!! Fucking awsome... I have been so happy since lunch that I dont want to work, I just want to go home...

[Hourofpain]

go for it man stick in there

[HMUSN]

1FastFox I assume you like being a rebound?
because that's exactly what you are going to be.

[Hourofpain]

+1
fuck that shit
show her your dick, slap her with it and then leave so shell knowll exactly what she wont miss

[BWAL09]

dude, chris, just avoid her.. she said she wants time or whatever, so just back off, almost completely.. talk to her occasionally, but not enough to keep her satisfied.. she'll miss you like crazy and she'll come running back to you.. works EVERY time.

[scubasteve041186]

what he said above. do enough to stay in contact but make her miss you. not gona lie my ex broke up with me.. i got whiney and dragged my feet and said iw anted her back and blah blah. as soon as i went my own way and told her w/e i got my own shit going on she actualyl came back and said sorry to me after everything was said and done. now she acts like my gf again but i haven't finalized it.. see how i said.. "I" don't let her control the situation