[07gtmustang]

So I guess I just need some support right now, my soon to be wife and I are going through I rough time right now. I'm staying at my parents house with my daughter, and don't know what to do. I love her but she's hurt me two times now the first time was 2 1/2 years ago (we've been together 5 years) she slept with her ex, and I forgave and forgot, but now she's going though a lot of stress and dosen't know how to deal with it. She started talking to a guy in her class, then started questioning us.... she dosen't know how to deal with stress, and bottles everything up. So now I'm sitting here at my parents house trying to figure things out. Tired of hurting and don't know what to do. I love her, and I would like to get though this but, whats next if we work though this

[HMUSN]

There is not much you can do to change a womans mind.
Your daughter is the important thing right now.
She is going to need the comfort more than you man.
I ran into sort of the same situation a few years back.

[Garhfer]

move on man, you don't need that shit! There's too many damn women in the world to stay with one who keeps smashing your heart to pieces... it's better to be alone than to deal with that shit.

[07gtmustang]

she is 1 1/2 she dosn't need much except apple juice and mac and cheese right now lol

[HMUSN]

^ you think so..
she will feel it. you will see it in her attitude.

[07gtmustang]

Originally Posted by Garhfer move on man, you don't need that shit! There's too many damn women in the world to stay with one who keeps smashing your heart to pieces... it's better to be alone than to deal with that shit.

that is kinda what I am thinking but I really do love her and don't want to have to hear about what my daughter is doing, I want to see it for my self you know what I mean

[07gtmustang]

Originally Posted by HMUSN ^ you think so.. she will feel it. you will see it in her attitude.

It's hard to look at her and not think about her mother if that makes any sense

[Garhfer]

Originally Posted by 07gtmustang that is kinda what I am thinking but I really do love her and don't want to have to hear about what my daughter is doing, I want to see it for my self you know what I mean

It's always your call on what to do, but if it was me I'd rather be happy than in misery just because you want to stay for the kid, try to get custody or joint custody. She'll probably keep on doing what she's always done and see you keep coming back to her and think you'll always be there so she can continue fucking up.

[HMUSN]

I understand ya man.
The Pain will heal.
Once a cheater always a cheater man.
I just had a bomb dropped on me yesterday about my ex.

[07gtmustang]

its just so hard to hear and deal with, I thought she was the one I mean I put a 4000 dollar ring on her finger

[HMUSN]

yea.. I did the same.

she sold it for drugs

[Garhfer]

Originally Posted by 07gtmustang its just so hard to hear and deal with, I thought she was the one I mean I put a 4000 dollar ring on her finger

you better get that shit back lol, she fucked up the relationship so you should get your ring back

[07gtmustang]

Originally Posted by Garhfer you better get that shit back lol, she fucked up the relationship so you should get your ring back

is it fucked up that, thats the last thing I care about?

[HMUSN]

not at all man. you're hurt

[07gtmustang]

I could care less about the money I just wish things were like they use to be

[HMUSN]

maybe they will maybe they won't man.
I know that's not what you want to hear right now but it's the truth

[tcasoccer13]

that sucks bro... my friend who i've known forever is going through the same crap... he's at his parents house right now also... he's trying to work through it but she just isnt helping and just keeps telling him how terrible he is, when she is the problem... but i'll pray for ya man

[Garhfer]

Originally Posted by 07gtmustang is it fucked up that, thats the last thing I care about?

No, it's normal but you better get that ring back if you spent that damn much lol... life is crazy sometimes man, you just gotta keep your mind off it or go for long walks to clear your head and think about what you want to do and what the consequences are... Of course it's gonna be hard and hurt but it'll work out in the end for the best.

[07gtmustang]

I know, wheres the books about how to deal with this lol

[Tony_90fox]

I agree with HMUSN. Take care of your daughter...Hopefully, your fiance will realize how bad it is without you and come crawling back. And hopefully without doing anything stupid in the mean time...