[futureMACH1racer]

So, some of you may know, from me saying that I have been dating the same woman for 3 yrs on and off. We have taken a couple of breaks. During the most recent break, I dated another girl for a month and a half. I really liked that girl, her and I were like PB & J. We meshed so well, and after only a couple of weeks I thought that I could marry this girl, we were on the fasttrack too engagement. It was amazing, it was nothing like what I have ever felt for a woman before. It was all about her, I was selfless, and so was she. Well somethings happened and we split up after a few weeks of moping,, and being pissed I turned to Carli, my curret gf for someoe to talk too. We eded up getting back together, and I thought I was happy. That was until Jen came back into my life, over the past 2 weeks. She is all that I can think about, and she feels the same way. She has apparently befriended my sister, and has told her that she hasn't dated anyone since we broke up, and has missed me tremendously. I'm torn, I can't make my mind up. I've been talking to Jen pretty much all day everyday, even late at night I fantasize about her. We have had phone sex even, something I haven't done since college. I have honestly never wanted someone so bad in my life before. The sexy pics she seds doesn't help. I'm all twisted up, and I can't decide what I want.

On one hand Carli is a great gf, she is understanding, but lately the passion that was once there is gone.

Then I have the equally beautiful Jen, and I'm confused I don't want to mistake lust for love.

Please help...

[HMUSN]

pick one.

[TheUNZippee!]

Originally Posted by futureMACH1racer So, some of you may know, from me saying that I have been dating the same woman for 3 yrs on and off. We have taken a couple of breaks. During the most recent break, I dated another girl for a month and a half. I really liked that girl, her and I were like PB & J. We meshed so well, and after only a couple of weeks I thought that I could marry this girl, we were on the fasttrack too engagement. It was amazing, it was nothing like what I have ever felt for a woman before. It was all about her, I was selfless, and so was she. Well somethings happened and we split up after a few weeks of moping,, and being pissed I turned to Carli, my curret gf for someoe to talk too. We eded up getting back together, and I thought I was happy. That was until Jen came back into my life, over the past 2 weeks. She is all that I can think about, and she feels the same way. She has apparently befriended my sister, and has told her that she hasn't dated anyone since we broke up, and has missed me tremendously. I'm torn, I can't make my mind up. I've been talking to Jen pretty much all day everyday, even late at night I fantasize about her. We have had phone sex even, something I haven't done since college. I have honestly never wanted someone so bad in my life before. The sexy pics she seds doesn't help. I'm all twisted up, and I can't decide what I want. On one hand Carli is a great gf, she is understanding, but lately the passion that was once there is gone. Then I have the equally beautiful Jen, and I'm confused I don't want to mistake lust for love. Please help...

Truth?

If you can't pick one you aren't ready for either.

[RavensChild]

flip a coin?

remember bwal is always waiting for you

[futureMACH1racer]

I hear ya guys, but I'm going to break Carli's heart by ending our relationship.

Jen, has grown up alot and figured out what she wants, and I'm it so I'm told.

[TheUNZippee!]

HOw old are the lot of you?

[atlacatl213]

hmmm... stick to the main course and get over your sides.

[futureMACH1racer]

Yeah, the next problem is I told my sister that her and a couple of her friends could come down to my apartment to chill. Guess who is coming down? Jen is this would be a whole lot easier if they both were in MI, Carli is up there, but with Jen coming down, I know that I'm going to not be thinking clearly.

[atlacatl213]

Hah, don't let the girls drive the decisions in your life. Just don't get in the situation where you fuck it up for both girls.

Play it smart dude.

[futureMACH1racer]

They both are gorgeous too... I'm so f**ked in the head right now.

It's not about sex, bro... I've been with a lot of women. Not several, A LOT!!! I was a scumbag, lyig, cheating, dirty boy. Now the past 3 yrs, I've been a decent guy.

[futureMACH1racer]

Bro, usually I'm in control, but this is uchartered waters for me, I have feelings for both and want to not hurt either. This is defiately harder for me than making a $xxx,xxx decision at work.

[TheUNZippee!]

Originally Posted by futureMACH1racer They both are gorgeous too... I'm so f**ked in the head right now. It's not about sex, bro... I've been with a lot of women. Not several, A LOT!!! I was a scumbag, lyig, cheating, dirty boy. Now the past 3 yrs, I've been a decent guy.

And a decent guy would heed my advice up yonder^.

lol

See, that short bit of advice I gave you, at first sounds like a put down almost, but really what "If you can't pick one, you aren't ready for both" means is, if you were truly in love with one, then having to make a decision would be a moot point.

[atlacatl213]

lol I think to be honest that you haven't grown up emotionally. you been messing around with other girls without taking them seriously and now you're in an emotional bind with two girls.

Well idk what to tell you really. But if you really can't make up your mind, I don't think you deserve either since you're questioning a relationship that you've been stable in. If you really felt for her you'd stay with her.

I guess I've done enough mudslinging here lol.

[RavensChild]

Originally Posted by TheUNZippee! And a decent guy would heed my advice up yonder^. lol See, that short bit of advice I gave you, at first sounds like a put down almost, but really what "If you can't pick one, you aren't ready for both" means is, if you were truly in love with one, then having to make a decision would be a moot point.

*deep voice* HE HAS SPOKEN

good point

[futureMACH1racer]

I'm just usure because Jen, and I split up because she all of a sudden was unready. I'm things did go fast in all fairness. I'm just skeptical, because I ain't ever been hurt before that, or rejected.

[futureMACH1racer]

No, guys it's cool I appreciate it so very much. I think that I'm going to spend this weekend at home with Carli, and next weekend Jen comes down. I'll be able to really know how I feel.

I've been outta state for a while now, and really have't been able to see them in person.

[Rico-mofos]

someones definitely going to get hurt in this triangle...could be even you...so your going to have pick one or the whole is going get more complicated...ive been in a similar situation wich i never should have let myself get into now that i look back on it...live n learn...just my .02

[futureMACH1racer]

Your .02 is well appreciated.


I want to sincerely thank all of you.


Zip, if none of this works out for me, I'll meet you at Niagra Falls

[TheUNZippee!]

lol sure man

Say, smells of myspace in here

[MamaStang]

Zip is right.

Dude...it's a dangerous game you're playing. Hubby tried that game with me. Girls know when something isn't right. I sensed something was going on and called him out on it. Then he told the other girl about me and she literally about killed him.

If you're going to continue to date 2 girls, at least have the decency to tell them that you're not ready to commit to one girl. Then they can make an informed decision about what they want to do.

If you don't have that "I can't live without you" feeling - it's not what it needs to be for a committed relationship.

You're not a bad person - you're just young.