[97Cobra]

ok well Im living with my mom in WY trying to get my C/C paid off and everything. and she is planning on moving to Pueblo CO for a job and she offered Heather and I to move up with her so I can live with her and pay off the C/C plus there's better paying jobs down there and they would pay for the move.

Then on the other hand Heather wants to stay in Sheridan to take a Biology class and to stay close to her family and I really want to be with Heather. BUT if I stay with Heather I will loose my job at the hotel because my moms the manager and the owner will fire me and being that apartments are soooo expensive here and work is hard to come by. I wouldnt be able to pay for a apartment, I would be unable to pay for my C/C. so most likly Id be homeless, with debt stacking up and end up selling my only hobby I enjoy my COBRA! BUT Id get to be with Heather. He fam dosnt like me and they would really hate me when they see im homeless!

I asked Heather to move up with me to Pueblo intill I get good then we could move where ever. And she could live with me in an apartment there and start classes in CO so we could both be living good. But she cant because shes scared as to what her fam would think of her moving away n living with her Fiancee. She believes she would loose her parents which I dont want to happen! but I dont believe shell loose them. Heather told me that I was being selfish and I didnt think I was because its about me being homeless, falling deeper into debt, and loosing my pride n joy vs her moving to CO, Living with me, and both of s living good. and I understand that she would be 6-7hrs away from her parents but i thought that wouldn't be as big of deal as being 6-7hrs away from your parents homeless... . I love Heather to death but im really scared as what to do. We talked about it and I told her that once my mom quits that I would plead to the owner of the hotel to let me keep my job and possibly stay in a room for awhile. Just so I could stay here with her while she gets her life figured out. I think that shows her right there that I love her and that Im willing to do anything it takes to be with her but dosnt mean I cant be scared about what the future holds.

on a side note her dad is starting to come around and is about ready to meet me. (yeah been dating his daughter for a year and engaged and still wouldn't meet me) he let her go to denver with me for my 21st b day this coming sunday and he told her that he will have a BBQ when we get back and he will meet me. so hopfully he likes me and leaves Heather alone about me or makes her mom lay off me! Id rather have her mom lay off me than her dad! sheeeeesh her mom is soooooo develishly anoying, ruthless, lieing, and all around mean lady to me!

I dont know what to do... ahhhhhh life is soooo flipping difficult! right now!

[99mustanggtman]

Sounds like her parents are a little over protective. You are definitely in a tough situation. If you truly love her and since you are engaged and you feel that this is the love of your life. You need to do whatever it takes to make this dream come true, even if it means selling the cobra. Your going to have to make sacrifices. Sorry I can't help much. But thats my 2 cents.

[BostonPerformance]

how old is heather, again?

[03SonicBoom]

Maybe you should move w/ your mom and her stay where she is and finish school. If you do truely love her and she you, you guys will make it work out. Just because you would move for a job doesn't mean that she has to go with you. Once you get set up and good like you say you will, then bring her out.

Personally, I see it from her parents eyes. She's in school, living w/ her parents, and only been going out w/ you for 1 year (I would guess you guys are 17-20 years old). They still feel that she's dependent on them (which she is) and 1 year is not long at all to be going out w/ someone.

Cliffnotes:
* move w/ your mom so you have a job
* get set up and not living w/ your mom (nothing like still living under your parents wing while bringing in your fiance)
* let her finish school
* then bring her out w/ you where she'll have her schooling done and be able to find a job

[hellequin]

i would move. Honestly long distance realtionships aren't for everyone but one of my friends has been going to school in florida while his g/f goes in pennslyania and theve been happy doing this for two plus years now. If you guys are meant to be it will work. 6 hour drive is a bitch, yet if you have the time you can do it and still see her every month for a weekend or something, not to mention all of winter break, spring break, summer. Its not worth starting your life before you should so you end up a miserable bastard. Well gl in your choice (please dnt sell your car and drive a pos)

[Smoothgrandmama]

You have a choice and its simple sell car and stay. keep car and move. On a ride note love is not broken by distance if you were married it would be diff but your not.you need get your life set in order before you get married anyways

[weems]

Move, pay off your debt. Move back. Obviously your not the selfish one. She should also do whatever possible to make it work with you.

[TheUNZippee!]

Speaking as an older gentleman with years of experience of fucking up my bills, your first priority should be paying off your bills.

Period.

Anyone worth anything who loves you should respect that and as such work with you towards that goal.

/FIN

[06RedfireGT]

[TheUNZippee!]

[06RedfireGT]

[TheUNZippee!]

[~C~]

Dude, long distance relationships work if you both agree to make them work. So talk about it with her. If you are engaged, then it should be a no brainer. Move and take care of your shit, get "good" and then move back with her. She has to do what she needs to do and you have to do what you need to do. It will last if you both agree to make it work. I did a LD relationship for 5 years, and it worked fine. It sucks, but it works.

[06RedfireGT]

[TheUNZippee!]

[AzSonicSnake]

Originally Posted by TheUNZippee! Speaking as an older gentleman with years of experience of fucking up my bills, your first priority should be paying off your bills. Period. Anyone worth anything who loves you should respect that and as such work with you towards that goal. /FIN

wow...this guy really makes sense. and to think i thought he was just some lowly post whore.

[TheUNZippee!]

Nah I'm not lowly

[97Cobra]

got it worked out! Heather found me an apartment and its 280 a month and im gonna work at schwans making750-1200 a week I think everything is gonna work out for me!!!!

[Arsenal]

awesome

[97Cobra]

IF I get the schwans job though. my friend told me that they work long hrs like 8a to 9p... but you get 2months of guaranteed pay of 960 a week then after that he says he just got commission but now the new guys get guaranteed at least 750 a week. so for the hrs its ok $$$ !