That was actually a great read. Lol I'm glad it worked out in your favor. But seriously, what the hell was a little 120lb kid thinking as he was walking up to you swinging. The youth these days
Nicely done man.
Parenting styles, changes in discipline philosophy over the ears....
Somewhere along the way, many people came to believe that using any
amount of fear to discipline your child is wrong. Unfortunately, ALL emotions must be experienced, and children have to be taught how to deal with them and what they mean. Including fear. This doesn't mean beating the shit out of your child when he spills a glass of milk, but if you never, ever allow your child to experience fear, he will fear nothing. And while that sounds cool at face value, it's actually a very dangerous prospect. Just because you fear nothing doesn't mean you're a tough guy, doesn't mean you will make wise decisions, and doesn't mean you can do anything safely and successfully. In fact it usually means the opposite.
So now you move through life not being afraid of anyone, which can get you hurt or even dead, you fear no consequences, meaning you don't fear doing things that can get you arrested, get you fired from a job, get you broke, etc, etc, etc... it also helps contribute to the huge sense of entitlement so many young people today seem to have. When you've grown up fearing NOTHING, you have more of a tendency to believe you deserve whatever you want, and that you're entitled to DO anything you want to ANYONE you want.
You see these kids who are not afraid of cops, will tell anyone to fuck off.. teachers, cops, other adults... that's not because they're tough. It's because they never learned to experience and thus respect fear.
So we have that emotion for a reason. Fear is part of what helps keep us a little safer in life, it's part of what helps us make smarter decisions, especially after making mistakes. Fear helps keep us in line when we're younger, until we're able to better understand and process more logic based lessons.
Of course, some parents are just flat out not there at all, but you'd be surprised how often kids like this actually have parents at home that love them... but they're just making horrific parenting and discipline decisions.