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August 25th, 2012 10:26 AM
Darwin Now that the emotional venting is over you get to hear the rational advice.

It is never the distance, it is the mentality.
People will cheat with a neighbor while you are at work and will be home in a few hours, they are no good and you need to see the signs.
I had a wounded heart after I caught the girl I gave a ring to with another guy while I was in the army. I got over it. I watched as guy after guy go through the same bs and then seen worse. Familes broken and lives ruined and children lost and heartbroken and emotionally crushed. I knew an asshole of a guy from hs meet his match and got dumped and he lost is soul with that girl and went and blew his brains out.

I met a girl who seen the same bs left and right and we got together and after a couple years we got married. Fought like cats and dogs for a while over expectations and trust issues but as we learned more about each other we got over these issues even the ones where I had to work on the road for months at a time.

We don't cheat and we both had our many chances (women are attracted to a man who can show a commitment and they will try to cut in line to get a shot) and those chances still come up and some people like to get that score for the moment or even ruin other relationships as a thrill, be careful of them. My wife and I get more from each other because we give more and expect less. I could spend hours explaining the nightmares and almost break-ups but that would spoil it for you, you need to experience that for yourself to value it.

Next May we will have our 25th Anniversary.

If you want something like this then you need to get the crazy shit over with and stop looking for love and let it come to you. There are girls out there who are invisible to your present state of mind and could rock your world for the rest of your life but you look for the tail of the moment and dont see them and know this: they are watching you and know more about you than you know before they let you get close and they watch your friends as your friends speak volumes about your character.
Now I have to go finish painting the shed before she kicks my ass when she gets back...
August 25th, 2012 03:57 AM
honeybadger
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Originally Posted by HighDensity View Post
OP, sorry I'm just now reading this. I didn't read any other responses.

Young relationships stick to you. What you think is important now, in five years, it won't matter that much. In 10 years from now, it won't matter at all and you'll look back and say "what a learning experience".

When you're young, you fall way to in love, way too fast, which can be dangerous. Because of this, your scope of mind is narrowed and it's hard to look at things in an objective way and realize just how a relationship really is, good or bad. You want to hold on to what you have "built" so much because you have "invested" so much time right?

The fact is, at your age and at her age, you make mistakes and you move on. Don't build on the negative. This is not the end of the world. Trust me, in 10 years, you'll look back on this and say I told you so.

So here is what I suggest. Move to, or live, in a place where you can flourish. Don't count on this with her working out. Live in a place you can grow whether that is here or there. Build your career. With your ambition to get things done (school accomplishments, etc) by the time you're 25 you'll be personally and financially prepared to find someone who is at your level, and mature enough to grow with you and look at things with a broad scope. 16,18,20...you're developed a lot, but mentally there are so many other things you need to experience and develop as an individual.

Little story about me that I don't believe I've shared before. Met my high school sweetheart at age 16 in DC. I was the high school jock, she was a cheerleader at our rival high school (go figure). First this, first that. We dated all through HS and after. We were long distance during college. She was in Richmond VA for college, I was in Atlanta GA for college. We saw each other maybe once a month at most. When we saw each other, we wanted to just go to town. The distance did that to us. We had little stupid arguments here and there. Long story short, at age 21 we both moved back to DC (where we went to HS). What we both thought we wanted, was not so. We broke up very soon. We were both devastated and that was probably, at that point in my life, the hardest thing I ever endured at the ripe old age of 21 (or so I thought). This actually opened the door for me to endure that hardship, become more self aware of who I was as an individual, development with more personal growth on my own, and realize what I could be without her. That allowed me to meet my (now) wife. I couldn't be happier. I love my wife to death.

All of that was 12 years ago. Don't get me wrong, my high school sweetheart still has a special place in my heart, as I do for her. There has not been a year that has gone by that she hasn't wished me happy birthday (somehow) and me the same to her. We both realize that what we had was young and special, but the bigger picture is that our break up allowed us to grow more as individuals than we ever imagined.

Don't get too wrapped in this. I know it's hard, but the both of you are going to focus on the negativity of what her actions have brought which will do nothing but take your focus off your career and personal development. You're young, move on.

HD

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August 25th, 2012 03:42 AM
AngryStang856
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Originally Posted by HighDensity View Post
OP, sorry I'm just now reading this. I didn't read any other responses.

Young relationships stick to you. What you think is important now, in five years, it won't matter that much. In 10 years from now, it won't matter at all and you'll look back and say "what a learning experience".

When you're young, you fall way to in love, way too fast, which can be dangerous. Because of this, your scope of mind is narrowed and it's hard to look at things in an objective way and realize just how a relationship really is, good or bad. You want to hold on to what you have "built" so much because you have "invested" so much time right?

The fact is, at your age and at her age, you make mistakes and you move on. Don't build on the negative. This is not the end of the world. Trust me, in 10 years, you'll look back on this and say I told you so.

So here is what I suggest. Move to, or live, in a place where you can flourish. Don't count on this with her working out. Live in a place you can grow whether that is here or there. Build your career. With your ambition to get things done (school accomplishments, etc) by the time you're 25 you'll be personally and financially prepared to find someone who is at your level, and mature enough to grow with you and look at things with a broad scope. 16,18,20...you're developed a lot, but mentally there are so many other things you need to experience and develop as an individual.

Little story about me that I don't believe I've shared before. Met my high school sweetheart at age 16 in DC. I was the high school jock, she was a cheerleader at our rival high school (go figure). First this, first that. We dated all through HS and after. We were long distance during college. She was in Richmond VA for college, I was in Atlanta GA for college. We saw each other maybe once a month at most. When we saw each other, we wanted to just go to town. The distance did that too us. We had little stupid arguments here and there. Long story short, at age 21 we both moved back to DC (where we went to HS). What we both thought we wanted, was not so. We broke up very soon. We were both devastated and that was probably, at that point in my life, the hardest thing I ever endured at the ripe old age of 21 (or so I thought). This actually opened the door for me to endure that hardship, become more self aware of who I was as an individual, development with more personal growth on my own, and realize what I could be without her. That allowed me to meet my (now) wife. I couldn't be happier. I love my wife to death.

All of that was 12 years ago. Don't get me wrong, my high school sweetheart still has a special place in my heart, as I do for her. There has not been a year that has gone by that she hasn't wished me happy birthday (somehow) and me the same to her. We both realize that what we had was young and special, but the bigger picture is that our break up allowed us to grow more as individuals than we ever imagined.

Don't get too wrapped in this. I know it's hard, but the both of you are going to focus nothing more on than the negativity that her actions have brought. You're young, move on.

HD
Wow! Thank you for that! Honestly this made complete sense and I appreciate the time you took to properly explain something unlike the majority of people who I've spoken with and basically say "fuck her, your an idiot to even think about her" or something to that context.

This is all a major learning experience and I couldn't agree more when you say that at this age you fall "in love" to deep to fast.

I'm trying to focus on the "5 years from now" thought and mentality since I know there are lots of wonderful woman out there who can appreciate someone and share the ambition that I have to start a decent life.

98% of the replies in here have been sound advice and I truly do appreciate the effort from everyone considering I'm just some random person on a computer blabbering about feelings and relationships. Lol

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August 25th, 2012 03:27 AM
HighDensity OP, sorry I'm just now reading this. I didn't read any other responses.

Young relationships stick to you. What you think is important now, in five years, it won't matter that much. In 10 years from now, it won't matter at all and you'll look back and say "what a learning experience".

When you're young, you fall way to in love, way too fast, which can be dangerous. Because of this, your scope of mind is narrowed and it's hard to look at things in an objective way and realize just how a relationship really is, good or bad. You want to hold on to what you have "built" so much because you have "invested" so much time right?

The fact is, at your age and at her age, you make mistakes and you move on. Don't build on the negative. This is not the end of the world. Trust me, in 10 years, you'll look back on this and say I told you so.

So here is what I suggest. Move to, or live, in a place where you can flourish. Don't count on this with her working out. Live in a place you can grow whether that is here or there. Build your career. With your ambition to get things done (school accomplishments, etc) by the time you're 25 you'll be personally and financially prepared to find someone who is at your level, and mature enough to grow with you and look at things with a broad scope. 16,18,20...you're developed a lot, but mentally there are so many other things you need to experience and develop as an individual.

Little story about me that I don't believe I've shared before. Met my high school sweetheart at age 16 in DC. I was the high school jock, she was a cheerleader at our rival high school (go figure). First this, first that. We dated all through HS and after. We were long distance during college. She was in Richmond VA for college, I was in Atlanta GA for college. We saw each other maybe once a month at most. When we saw each other, we wanted to just go to town. The distance did that to us. We had little stupid arguments here and there. Long story short, at age 21 we both moved back to DC (where we went to HS). What we both thought we wanted, was not so. We broke up very soon. We were both devastated and that was probably, at that point in my life, the hardest thing I ever endured at the ripe old age of 21 (or so I thought). This actually opened the door for me to endure that hardship, become more self aware of who I was as an individual, development with more personal growth on my own, and realize what I could be without her. That allowed me to meet my (now) wife. I couldn't be happier. I love my wife to death.

All of that was 12 years ago. Don't get me wrong, my high school sweetheart still has a special place in my heart, as I do for her. There has not been a year that has gone by that she hasn't wished me happy birthday (somehow) and me the same to her. We both realize that what we had was young and special, but the bigger picture is that our break up allowed us to grow more as individuals than we ever imagined.

Don't get too wrapped in this. I know it's hard, but the both of you are going to focus on the negativity of what her actions have brought which will do nothing but take your focus off your career and personal development. You're young, move on.

HD
August 25th, 2012 02:08 AM
AngryStang856
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Originally Posted by mcqueen View Post
Ive been in youre position. Just let her go man. Im on my phone otherwise id tell you my story but youll find someone better. I know i did and we've been living together for a year now and in 2 weeks we"ll have our own apartment together. As much as you love her, the pain of her cheating will always hurt. End it altogether and move on. Youll be so much happier in the end. take it frok a guy whos basically been in your position. The grass is actually greener on the other side this time

Sent from Zip's bedroom
I hope so! I make my 10 hour trip tomorrow morning (in a few hours technically) and I know doing that alone is going to make my mind go crazy the whole time since all I've wanted for months was to see her everyday once I was back. Luckily I've made plans with some friends once I get there so I can keep from calling her once I'm there and had just spent all day in a car thinking about it all!

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August 24th, 2012 08:25 PM
McQueen Ive been in youre position. Just let her go man. Im on my phone otherwise id tell you my story but youll find someone better. I know i did and we've been living together for a year now and in 2 weeks we"ll have our own apartment together. As much as you love her, the pain of her cheating will always hurt. End it altogether and move on. Youll be so much happier in the end. take it frok a guy whos basically been in your position. The grass is actually greener on the other side this time

Sent from Zip's bedroom
August 24th, 2012 07:55 PM
Dennis the pits of hell to make as many peoples life miserable as possible
August 24th, 2012 07:25 PM
Till Some corner.....

Where did you come from?
August 24th, 2012 06:46 PM
Dennis
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Originally Posted by futureMACH1racer View Post
Douchery of the highest level guys..

No matter how many times or how hard you brush your teeth. You can't brush away the fact JP's dick was all up her mouth that you kiss, motherfucker.

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now now thats not nice. maybe he enjoys the taste of another mans cock in his mouth.

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Shut up and stop being a whiny girl cricket....
where the fuck did you come from dickface
August 24th, 2012 06:11 PM
MorbsMustang Did he ever answer how you tasted?
August 24th, 2012 05:47 PM
AngryStang856
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Originally Posted by Till View Post
Shut up and stop being a whiny girl cricket....
Smh

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August 24th, 2012 05:13 PM
Till Shut up and stop being a whiny girl cricket....
August 24th, 2012 12:36 AM
Cricket Ya know what? Shit happens. Honestly was one of the best things to have happen to me. Was I upset when it happened? Yeah, but I had some good friends who stepped up and showed me what friends are for.
August 24th, 2012 12:23 AM
AngryStang856 Wow awesome read. Now I understand a few comments in here. That dudes a fucking loser. Perfect timing considering my friend of 2 years back home is hanging out with this girl. And they "hated" eachother. Smh. He's getting his teeth knocked in in a few more days and I can only pray she ends up knocked up with some cheating lieng pig like 70% of men. Thts all she deserves.

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August 24th, 2012 12:00 AM
Cricket
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Originally Posted by MorbsMustang View Post
Link to this thread?
https://www.moddedmustangs.com/forums...-official.html


Honestly this thread was the first time I explained my side of the story. Well a good portion of it. I don't hold any grudges against him anymore. I would have to worry about it, think about it, care about it for it to affect me, but it doesn't. So if anyone tries to hash shit up again I really don't have time for something. Was just offering advice and experience to someone.
August 23rd, 2012 09:19 PM
AngryStang856
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Originally Posted by LegendEleanor View Post
Here's the game plan.
-Delete every single thing that leads to you two being together before she was 18.
-Fuck that douche sock kids mom.
-While she's going down on you, inform her that some girl raped her precious little 16 year old son.
-Let her get charged with statutory rape.
Perfect

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August 23rd, 2012 05:23 PM
LegendEleanor Here's the game plan.
-Delete every single thing that leads to you two being together before she was 18.
-Fuck that douche sock kids mom.
-While she's going down on you, inform her that some girl raped her precious little 16 year old son.
-Let her get charged with statutory rape.
August 23rd, 2012 05:14 PM
AngryStang856
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Originally Posted by SirShaun View Post
Don't ever trust anything that bleeds for 7 days and doesn't die. I mean common now. It's weird how guys hurt more after break ups tho. Girls just grudge fuck it away and smile. Cold blooded... May this music make you better.

Kanye West - Heartless - YouTube

I Got Mine - The Black Keys - YouTube

The Black Keys - Hurt Like Mine - YouTube

Kid Rock (Rock Kid) - Wasting Time (Official Explicit Audio) - YouTube

Fall Out Boy - I Don't Care - YouTube

CAKE - The Distance (Official Music Video) - YouTube
Isnt that the truth. They just move on. Good songs though!





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Originally Posted by MorbsMustang View Post
Link to this thread?
+1


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August 23rd, 2012 04:52 PM
MorbsMustang
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Originally Posted by Cricket View Post
When shit blew up on here with that guy and I someone came into the thread and posted "So how does J.P.'s dick taste?"

/thread
Link to this thread?
August 23rd, 2012 04:17 PM
SirShaun Don't ever trust anything that bleeds for 7 days and doesn't die. I mean common now. It's weird how guys hurt more after break ups tho. Girls just grudge fuck it away and smile. Cold blooded... May this music make you better.






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