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sup guys dont usually post in here but need some advise.

ok so my gf has a cps case on her, and her case worker (total b*tch) who wont let her work as of right now and makes her take retarded amount of classes all because her sperm donors mother called them because she wont let them see the kids. she not abuse towards the kids (in my minds kid deserves old fashion whoopin) but my question is now she (cps worker) wants me to take parenting classes, but i only see them on weekends and really just spoil them especially the oldest. Am i obligated to take the class i mean can she force me to??? i still have to call her, but i dont want to hear bs like "well if you dont go i'll take kids away" or "ok then dont come around kids" etc etc i dont have criminal record or bad driving record n she's already ran a background on me. Just feel this is some more b.s. on her part and is also trying to blame me for my gf oldest trying to act out (he's only 6) :facepalm:
 

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you don't have to do it. but it wouldn't look good for your girl when this goes to court
she's done everything to the T her case closes in February, i just feel she trying everything to make her lose her kid, since there young they can easy be adopted out to other families
 

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First off, it's horseshit to say someone's boyfriend is required to take classes. I'd refuse, as there's really nothing they can do to her about it.

Second, assuming you mean sperm donor literally, this shouldn't even be a cps case. As far as I'm aware, sperms donors sign a paper saying that they basically release all rights to the child, so I'm not sure how this hasn't been thrown out.

Now if you're using "sperm donor" figuratively, then I have no idea.
 

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I think he means sperm donor as the pos who left after donating unexpected sperm.
 

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First off, it's horseshit to say someone's boyfriend is required to take classes. I'd refuse, as there's really nothing they can do to her about it.

Second, assuming you mean sperm donor literally, this shouldn't even be a custom case. As far as I'm aware, sperms donors sign a paper saying that they basically release all rights to the child, so I'm not sure how this hasn't been thrown out.

Now if you're using "sperm donor" figuratively, then I have no idea.
sperm donor as in pos that really never did anything to fight for kids after cps took em from what i know he literally told my gf to hand over kids and let her (his mom) raise em and ya im going to refuse the classes because 1. i havent done anything to put them in harms way 2. im not a parent myself yet
 

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I just asked my father who worked as a CPS investigator for several years. (left CPS in 2012) He said cps can't make anyone do **** unless they get a court order. Your GF isn't even required to take any classes without a court order. Said sounds like you just got a bitch investigator. That said the investigator can remove the kids just because they want to and then your GF will have to go to court to get them back. SO basically if she really is a major bith anything you do to piss her off cold back fire.


He said your best course of action is to file a complaint with your state representative.
 

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I just asked my father who worked as a CPS investigator for several years. (left CPS in 2012) He said cps can't make anyone do **** unless they get a court order. Your GF isn't even required to take any classes without a court order. Said sounds like you just got a bitch investigator. That said the investigator can remove the kids just because they want to and then your GF will have to go to court to get them back. SO basically if she really is a major bith anything you do to piss her off cold back fire.


He said your best course of action is to file a complaint with your state representative.
well she's has a court order to do the classes, which she has completed almost all of them. n i guess she's a bitch by nature, but being prego isnt helping. my Gf case is closing in February court order my gf to get custody of the kids n finish up classes, just dont want cps worker to use this against her. and how do i file a complaint to my state representative?
 

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Here's my 2 cents on the matter. Take it for whatever you want. I have no idea why this guy all the sudden wants his kids but, that's his right. He probably doesn't really give a **** about them and the social worker doesn't give a **** either. I can't attest to her motives either which is why I just stick with her not giving a ****.
That said, they are going to do everything they can to win. If YOU truly care about your g/f and her kids, it's time to ****ing suck it up and take one for the team. It's not about YOU winning like it is for them, you have something you care about on the line. This is serious ****. If it were me, not only would I take the stupid ass classes, I would quit drinking, quit dipping and quit wtf ever else I thought would look bad. Hell I would make dinner each night after work and we would all eat as a family. After February, life as usual. I would then look into every documented aspect of the case with an attorney and find any reason possible to sue the guy, the cps worker, her employer, the state and who the **** ever else I could
 

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Here's my 2 cents on the matter. Take it for whatever you want. I have no idea why this guy all the sudden wants his kids but, that's his right. He probably doesn't really give a **** about them and the social worker doesn't give a **** either. I can't attest to her motives either which is why I just stick with her not giving a ****.
That said, they are going to do everything they can to win. If YOU truly care about your g/f and her kids, it's time to ****ing suck it up and take one for the team. It's not about YOU winning like it is for them, you have something you care about on the line. This is serious ****. If it were me, not only would I take the stupid ass classes, I would quit drinking, quit dipping and quit wtf ever else I thought would look bad. Hell I would make dinner each night after work and we would all eat as a family. After February, life as usual. I would then look into every documented aspect of the case with an attorney and find any reason possible to sue the guy, the cps worker, her employer, the state and who the **** ever else I could
i never mentioned that the dad wanted his kids back, i said only reason why their was a cps case was because of their grandmother on dad side. she called and kept calling cps because my gf wouldnt let her see her kids. when my gf was with her ex he told her to let his mother raise their kids. and when this is all done with we are planning on suing cps idk about state, but i would like to see this worker removed of her position.
 

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wow, the ****ing actual dad says let it go but his mom is doing all this.
I don't know the reasons behind not letting grandma see the kids.. well, that grandma but, she was obviously hurt by it enough to take it this far. Just remember, it's not completely her fault her son is a ****ing deadbeat. SHe is the kids grandma and, if she's willing to take it this far, she obviously gives a **** about the kids. She is the person your wife needs to talk to. Not in a **** you bitch way but in a.. let's calmly figure this **** out kind of way.
I don't know why I am getting into this conversation because I'm just going to end up pissing someone off but, too late now.
No, actually, I am just going to let it go. The questions I have for you in order to get a better understanding of the situation are going to be too much.
 

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Your pissing me off........ You big meanie Poo poo face.




But that's really weird that the grandmother wants the kids.
 

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its her first child kids, he's also a momma boy, she would actually stop my gf from cooking or cleaning just to make her son happy. (says she doesnt cook or clean right) from what my gf told me. but i appreciate all the info you guys gave me.
 
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