Feb '14 ROTM
Yeah it sucks you in LOL
And still trying to get you to partake after like 15 years!!!I know a lawyer, book writer that is published, a doctor, and various other successful people that smoke weed to wind down or kill stress. I'd rather be around a bunch of high people versus drunk.
Don't always assume people based on habits
Now if she was doing meth or crack we would be having a different discussion but weed? It's a plant babay
I'm a little late to the party here, but I completely and 100% agree. I feel the EXACT same way about weed. I don't like it and there is something about it/the culture it propagates that I absolutely cannot stand.i got into a relationship for the first time in a few years. im 22 and shes 18. im pretty straight edge person. i dont do drugs and only drink maybe once a month. i havent been drunk in probably two years. the problem im having is with weed. i tried it once when i was 15ish. it just never stuck with me and isnt part of my lifestyle. she goes out and smokes with friends maybe every other week or once a month. not very often. she puts responsibilities first, such as her job and paying bills. i just dont know how to think of it. i like her and we get along great. i just need some advice on accepting it. ive never really been around it, being i grew up in a small town. i guess its just the fear of the unkown that scares me about it, and id like to dispel those fears. ive always kind of associated weed with a certain type of people that i didnt want to affiliate with, but maybe i need to change my viewpoint. im not saying i want to get into it myself because i dont, i just dont like being worried when she hangs out with her friends. so give me some advice on how to get over this.
However, I do completely agree with this. Which is why I don't dredge into the lives of people I respect. I am afraid I may find stuff that isn't so deserving of my respect. This obviously goes beyond pot smoking.I think if you really knew the truth about what people do behind closed doors, it would blow most people's ****ing minds who all smokes pot and keeps it on the down low.
This is pretty much where I land. And you said it much better than I did.I'll buck the trend here...
I'm not a fan of any drugs. Not because they're "illegal" but the reasoning for using them. If you need a chemical to "relax" or to "have fun" then what you're doing just isn't fun.
I wouldn't date smokers when I was dating because I don't like the taste of it. I don't particularly like the smell of pot, and when I was dating someone and found out they smoked it, I gave it a chance, but several other things she wasn't telling me surfaced shortly thereafter and I broke it off. Not the pot's fault, but I didn't want to kiss her when she stank of pot.
I was married to an alcoholic. Nothing against someone having a beer or some alcohol or anything, but again, in my opinion if you go out with the express intent to get drunk there's other issues in your life that need dealt with (unless you're just turning 21, you get a pass then in my opinion).
Relationship wise, it's up to you man. If you love every other aspect of her, and can overlook the pot, go for it. I think it's a bigger deal than that though, as you're asking us for advice. Her smoking pot doesn't make her bad, doesn't sound like she's a serious pot head or anything like that, just I find it gross and I personally wouldn't want to be part of it.
I've known people like you're describing and, honestly, every single one of them is a moron/douchenozzle with or without pot. People tend to attribute the stereotypical "culture" as what happens when people smoke pot. But, for the most part, those people were useless idiots before they even got around to smoking pot.I should say that yes, I do think its immature when adults smoke pot.
HOWEVER, the ones I am referring to are the openly vocal ones of course. Because if you do it behind closed doors, then how do I even know you do it in the first place? So you're not included in this. You know the type, the type that wears bull **** flea market tie die t-shirts with giant pot leafs on them. Those morons. The ones that would show up to a family gathering reeking of pot and not give two flying ****s. That's the type of pot smoker I hate, and the terrible stigma they have. These same ones that post something everyday on facebook about how pot should be legal, or the ones that are suddenly Doctors or Biochemists that will tell you with their internet gathered facts how pot is NOT in any way harmful to the body at all, in fact, its healthy! And then link you to same biased slanted bullshit "proving" their claims on a URL like stonersunite.C0m, Those are the people that I want to kick square in the genitals every time I hear them speak on the matter
Of course, there's no way in hell lighting anything on fire and breathing it in is "healthy". Saying it is "healthy" is undermining its usefulness for sure.I agree. I hate those people, there's a ton that do it behind close doors, but since they don't do it in the open then I don't know they're smokers anyway.
One thing I can't stand is the whole "How can a plant from the earth not be healthy!" They try to bring justification to their cause to make it legal by bringing up a bunch of bull **** articles about how it isn't unhealthy at all. Articles that make a John C news article look unbiased.
What they don't get is that there is a ton of **** that isn't healthy yet it's legal. Cigarettes are the leading cause of lung cancer, and those are legal. Alcohol is also not healthy, although in small quantities not as unhealthy as cigarettes.
Either way, there is no way inhaling any type of smoke into your lungs is healthy. It could be healthier than cigarettes, fine. But there is no way in hell anyone will ever convince me that inhaling smoke into your lungs is healthy. Yes I realize there is other ways to take pot.
If they want it to be legal just focus on the fact that other unhealthy things that are just as bad or worse are legal, so why isn't pot? Instead of making it seem like it's this miracle cure for everything known to man and it's just this hidden gem to medical science everywhere. Just say what it is, it's a "drug" you like to smoke for fun, other **** is worse than pot is, so make it legal already. Not, "Well, this guy who isn't really a doctor said it helped his cousins sisters aunts nephew who had cancer. It's a miracle medicine!"
Like you guys said though. The people sharing this **** are the D-bags anyway that would be d-bags without pot.
Aaaaand now I'm vomiting.Unless she starts smelling like hippy oil or starts growing armpit hair, or dread locking her beaver carry on.
and this right here is probably my biggest issue. i want nothing to do with those people or to be affiliated with them in any way.^ sounds like you're more against douchebags than smot pokers
i have nothing against weed or people who smoke it, but i agree, the yolo420blazeitfaggot culture is so ****ing obnoxious. i can assure you that's only a tiny percentage of the smokers though. it has nothing to do with the weed. those kids would be losers with or without it. they think bragging about doing something illegal makes them cool, that's all.
so far no worries, she shaves regularly! lolIf she starts looking like she had Buckwheat in a leg lock it's time to bail out and fast.
that's like a girl saying "i don't like car guys because i don't want to have anything to do with hellaflush"and this right here is probably my biggest issue. i want nothing to do with those people or to be affiliated with them in any way.
Damn, she's ballsier than me. I'm actually surprised because most aerospace companies will administer hair sample drug tests upon hire (I had to take one just for designing airline seats). Random drug tests in the aerospace industry aren't uncommon either.Depends entirely on her attitude and such surrounding weed, but from the sound of things I wouldn't sweat it. Weed is one of those things where every person has slightly different reactions depending on tolerance, potency, and the countless strains out there.
Personally, I smoke from time to time, although not nearly as much as I did when I was younger, primarily because it causes me to notice my back hurting far more than I would regularly.
My fiancé on the other hand, she smokes weed the way cigarette smokers do, every few hours or so she'll take a few hits and go back about her day. Doesn't have any real impact on her getting things around the house or at work done in any way, and she does IT for Boeing, not some BS job at MickeyDs or something that you would typically think a 'stoner' would work. It helps her tremendously with managing bipolar and anxiety issues, whereas prior to smoking weed regularly she had a multitude of meds that she was on that essentially stripped her of any motivation or ambition, versus today she has a low dose of Zoloft and nothing else (besides the pot).
In public, most people are either surprised or indifferent when they discover she smokes, because she doesn't exhibit any of the typical behaviors that you'd expect from someone that smokes multiple times a day, every day. Behind closed doors, she does run a blog on Tumblr that features a bunch of girls smoking/talking about weed, but outside of the internet its not a big deal.
Something worth noting, is that smoking anything is bad for your lungs. She primarily uses a vape pen, which not only is a lot less damaging to your lungs, but has the advantage of being discreet enough that no one looks twice at her using it, as it's indistinguishable from an ecig until you take it apart and doesn't really smell like a joint would. Occasionally she'll bring out the bongs and take huge rips to get completely blazed, but in that regard it's no different than any other psychoactive substance. A beer or two isn't going to get you drunk, but half a dozen shots most certainly will.
She's never been drug tested. It's also legal in WA, so that might have something to do with it.Damn, she's ballsier than me. I'm actually surprised because most aerospace companies will administer hair sample drug tests upon hire (I had to take one just for designing airline seats). Random drug tests in the aerospace industry aren't uncommon either.
I risk my employment doing it but that's because I'm nearly 100% certain they won't test unless I get like seriously injured in the manufacturing shop - in which case I'd be way more concerned about hydraulic fluid injection anyway! **** that noise! But it's also not like I'm toking up before walking into the office or some stupid ****.
Underground section is un-searchable right? LOL